About Kanani Fong

Founder, WarRetreat.Org, devoted to helping with the aftermath of war through movement, breathe, and yoga. Army wife, long time mental health advocate, writer, editor, specializing in military and veteran outreach for film and books. Projects include Restrepo, and High Ground.

Breath: Coping in a Cynical World

There is an unmistakable bond created between people who go through war. Veterans can pick out other veterans in street clothes, “just by the way we move,” said one to me not long ago. It’s a well know fact that the bond may be the deepest relationship they will ever form. It surpasses that of girlfriends, and wives (but maybe not their mothers). In an institution where one life relies upon the other without question, crossing over into the outside world can be particularly vexing. Mainly because we live in a nation increasingly rooted in cynicism. The problem is cynicism -even when laced with humor, can quickly turn into a negative view of the world that colors one’s  outlook, and their ability to get things done.

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But cynicism will isolate and kill us. In the long run, chronic cynics are tiresome. Negativity as a way of life is a destroyer,  erodes values, and attracts habits (and people) toxic to us.  But we can learn to identify and refuse to let them drag us down. We’re not talking about feet off the ground kind of happiness: the type of person who overlooks and ignores the unpleasantries or challenges of life. I hasten to say, those people might be less reliable than cynics.  But there’s a way to get through the thick bog of cynicism,  emerge with our feet on the ground. Let go of the cynicism by holding onto the values taught: Honor, Courage, Commitment. Living those is a far better navigational compass that leads to better coping. For these things are inclusive, they uphold values, and deflect the negative. It takes a lot of will, and breath will help you get there.

Hard Core: PTSD Conferences & “PTSD Won’t Stop Me”

Watch this great video by A Piece of The Master, provided by A Backpack Journalist. Backpack Journalist bears mentioning because it was created to help at-youth risk, and military teens find their voice, and develop resiliency in the face of a multitude of changes that threatens the stability of their lives. More after the jump.

urlThe more we learn, the deeper we begin to understand, the more choices we have. So many yoga teachers have advanced degrees in other fields, and many have asked us where to learn more. Rather than send them through yoga conferences,  consider academic symposiums where they can meet people on the cutting edge of trauma research and treatment. When trying to understand and be conversant in trauma,  looking outside the yoga world is essential.  Ideally, it’s great to take an interdisciplinary approach to collaborate with others and expand what there is to offer.

Mention here does not constitute an approval or endorsement. Please research these links to see if it’s the best match for you.

Freedom & Recovery 2013 Integrated Mental Health & Addiction Treatment For Service Members

  • When: April 3-6, 2013
  • Where: Coronado CA
  • About: “This unique conference gathers psychologists, professionals, therapists, interventionists, social workers and addiction counselors to share evidence-based practices through a combination of instructional levels. The following objectives will be met:
    • Explain techniques to help treat trauma and addiction
    • Identify methods for integrating families into treatment
    • State suicide prevention strategies”

The Amygdala Stress, and PTSD Conference 

24th Annual International Trauma Conference: Psychological Trauma, Neuroscience, Attachment and Therapeutic Interventions

  • When: May 29 – June 1, 2013
  • Where: Boston MA
  • About:  By The Trauma Center at JRI: “The objective of this course is to present current research findings on how people’s brains, minds, and bodies respond to traumatic experiences; how they regulate emotional and behavioral responses; and the role of relationships in protecting and restoring safety and regulation.”

The Brain At War: The Veterans Health Research Institute (Northern Californian Institute for Research & Education NCIRE)

  • When: June 20, 2013
  • Where: TBA. Last year it was in San Francisco.  New website for 2013 has not been set up. Please check the NCIRE site and find them on Facebook.
  • About: The sixth annual meeting of the leading national conference on the neurological and psychological wounds of war. NCIRE is exclusively for veterans health.

National Biennial  Symposium For Veterans, 2013 Invisible Injuries of War: PTSD/TBI/TEI and Poly-Trauma

  • When:  Oct 4-5 2013
  • Where: Milwaukee WI
  • About: The Wisconsin Veterans’ Foundation is spearheading this event. “Designed on a biennial basis this timing provides the Leadership Council the time necessary to adequately define veterans’ issues, their contents, locate experts in respective fields, and develop a forum upon which to address the issues coherently and with content aimed at the professionals in search of the tools and resources to aid veterans, their families, and community.”

OMEGA: Veterans, Trauma & Treatment

  • When: October 18-20, 2013
  • Where: OMEGA, Rhinebeck NY (Special pricing available for vets & families)
  • About: “Veterans, Trauma & Treatment offers professional information on the same mind-body modalities that the military is currently exploring as a complement to traditional drug and talk therapy. It is intended for health-care professionals, psychologists, social workers, caregivers, and counselors working with veterans who suffer with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and their families.”

International Society For Traumatic Stress Studies 29th Annual Meeting: “Resilience After Trauma: From Surviving To Thriving

  • When: November 6, 7, 8, 9, 2013
  • Where: Philadelphia PA
  • About: “The ISTSS Annual Meeting is a unique opportunity to learn the latest in traumatic stress research, hear about clinical insights and innovations, earn continuing education credits, and network with colleagues.The 2013 meeting in Philadelphia will be the year’s largest gathering of professionals dedicated to trauma treatment, education, research and prevention. More than 100 symposia, workshops, panel discussions, cases and media presentations will be presented on a wide variety of topics related to traumatic stress.”

In Kathmandu: Veterans and Mountains

As you know, I’ve just finished up work on a new documentary called HIGH GROUND. It’s a film that will appeal to a lot of our readers. Set in the lushness of the Khumbu valley, and the dramatic 20,000 ft peak of Mt Lobuche, 11 wounded warriors and 1 Gold star and Blue Star mother make their way to the top. Along with lessons learned, the share their stories of war with the back drop of the Himalayas. Stunning. Stream in online through netflix, amazon, or iTunes, or bring it to your town by writing to me here at WarRetreat.

I wanted to wrap things up, and found this apt poem by Donald Justice. It describes the coming home of veterans in relation to coming down off a mountain.

11 Veterans & 1 Gold Star and Blue Star Mother climb Mt Lobuche after war.

11 Veterans & 1 Gold Star and Blue Star Mother climb Mt Lobuche after war.

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To Work With Veterans -#semperlove

Clay Hunt and Jake Wood

Clay Hunt and Jake Wood

When Marine veteran Clay Hunt killed himself in 2011, it was a wake up call for everyone to pay attention to the deeper layers. From the surface, it seemed that the voraciousness with which Clay advocated for other veterans, rode with Ride to Recovery, and went with Team Rubicon on their maiden voyage to help in Haiti –that he was in the clear. But anxiety, depression, fears, and the video loop that replayed the trauma of war would not let up. Clay killed himself in his apartment in Houston.  Clay, like the “147,763 suicides in 21 states over the 13 years “ left behind friends, families and others who loved and always tried to be reassuring.

Last night, CBS news ran a story on the life and death of Clay. They interviewed his parents, mentors, and good friend –the founder of Team Rubicon, Jake Woods. Jake wasn’t just a friend –he was his  battle buddy, a brotherhood for the ages. He thinks of Clay often.

As I watched the segment on Clay, I thought of so many of the veterans from WWII and forward who came through our small surgical practice. The veteran who stood out was Bobby, a USMC Vietnam vet. He didn’t kill himself, but he tried several times over on his 20+ year path with alcoholism, incarceration, and drug addictions. The toll of this hard road took a turn when he arrived at the ER needing an amputation due to long festering diabetes. That’s how we ended up with Bobby.

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Bobby enjoying life, shortly before he died.

Bobby finally found himself, and developed an ebullient attitude in the years we took over his care. When we announced we were leaving for the Army, Bobby was the first one there to offer his good wishes. He helped our staff write resumes and post them online. Sadly, he died of a heart attack just before we closed. I think during the time we knew him, there was a mutual guidance between our staff and him. But Marines –they never stop giving even in death. I like to think Bobby watches over us.

I guess I’m writing this as a cautionary tale. There are legions who want to help veterans and are jumping into this full of determination and good will. Like anyone else, the paths of vets will be varied. Many will go on to live good lives, others will struggle like Bobby, and a few will lose the battle like Adam Razani, Peter Linnerooth, or Clay Hunt. Those who want to help should remember this: know your capabilities, work as a team, and seek help when you need it. You will never know everything, as digging beneath someone’s surface may not be your prerogative, but you must never lose hope.

Practice simple things in your helping. Listen, let others talk. Don’t railroad a conversation, as I once witnessed a nurse from the VA do (she was endemic of everything wrong with the system). Never mistake someone’s being “busy” or outwardly engaged in activities as a sign that they don’t need the occasional boost. Still, on occasion, we may lose someone with whom we tried very hard. That’s when we have to tell ourselves, “Dammit, I tried my best.” You gave to them, and never think they didn’t notice. Judge neither them or yourself.  Love that person and the memory of them with all your heart and if you can –stay in the good fight. 

Note: This post is dedicated to military veterans Carl Salazar, US Naval Academy graduate founder of Expedition Balance; Lt. Jeannette Shin, former USN chaplain; and Matt Murray, former USAF pilot and sherpa to many veterans. All have done incredible work.

 

A Reminder From Yoga For Vets: Some Veterans Are In Great Shape

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By Paul Zipes, US Navy Veteran, Founder, Yoga For Vets

The journey Yoga For Vets has been on is incredible with its many challenges. One of the best new challenges is from yoga teachers who want to help. but don’t understand some vets already are advanced yoga students and don’t want beginner or vet only classes. They just want 4 free “regular” yoga classes. This never happened a few years ago, perhaps because yoga was so much newer to the military.

Another issue arises from vets who want to know what the “catch” is. No catch, we just want to say welcome home and offer free classes if they want them.. I look forward to our FB page going over 1000 likes soon. In the mean time, keep reaching out to our vets and talk up Yoga For Vets. If anyone knows a webmaster or financial donor who wants to help take us to a more visible platform, let me know.
Thanks and again for your support and positive energy.
Paul

The Healing Power of Nature: Sierra Club Veterans & Military Families Initiative

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“We  have 18 service members a day committing suicide. What are we doing to conserve this resource?” -Stacy Bare, Executive Director, Sierra Club Mission Outdoors, December 2012*

As Jillian wrote earlier, here at WarRetreat, we see yoga as one tool in an arsenal of weapons to help veterans and their families as they transition from battlefield to home. What we hope to cultivate is the feeling that it’s okay to explore things you’ve never considered before, or to go for things you’ve always wanted to do. Whether it’s getting back in touch with your breath on a yoga mat, climbing a mountain, taking up painting or drawing, taking a drama class, or working to rebuild areas hard-hit by Hurricane Sandy, what we want you to do is not be afraid of what others think.

You fought for freedom, and you have choices.

Sierra Club Veterans & Military Families Initiative, also known as Sierra Club Mission Outdoors, is an organization that provides retreats and outings for veterans and families. Rather than bla-bla-bla, we’ll just let Stacy Bare, Executive Director tell you the story.

*Update: The latest number issued by the VA is 22 veterans a day take their lives. This includes veterans of all eras, not just ones from recent wars.

Sign Up Now for Free Veterans Retreat: Expedition Balance

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Carl Salazar, US Navy Veteran and founder of Expedition Balance writes:

I got the call around 11:00. The number wasn’t familiar and I let it ring. A few minutes later, I listened to the message. Her words reminded me of the other callers – mothers, wives, and Vets. I could hear their voices. This time it was the wife of a Vet. Her husband served in Afghanistan and suffered from PTSD. Like most things, this condition varies by degree. On the mild side, you might have headaches and nightmares. At it’s worst, PTSD destroys lives. It inflicts through drug & alcohol abuse, homelessness, violence, suicide. For the kids who go out and fight our wars – and their families – their lives are the price of our freedom. They are never the same again.

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I’m urging you to go over and read the rest of his piece over on tumblr. Carl is in the good fight like the rest of us. Please tell people (or apply yourself) for one of the slots at the Expedition Balance retreat on May 16-19 for a few days of yoga, meditation, and the added physical challenges of hiking, a bit of horseback riding, archery, and an obstacle course that you have not seen since Boyscout bootcamp. Check out this post about one participant’s experience.

It’s fun, it’s building a small community, a chance to break beyond those four walls whether physical or mental, and be a part of something that will give you what you deserve –freedom from worry and fear, and most of all, a few days of fun. When you leave, you’ll have re-found your balance.

  1. What: Expedition Balance Veterans Retreat
  2. Where: Texas, about 2 hours outside of Houston
  3. Cost: Free
  4. Who: Expedition Balance (founded by a veteran, created by veterans for veterans)
  5. Sign up where: Right here
  6. If you haven’t done yoga: that’s okay. Most people in the world haven’t done it either. Go, have fun. Try it!
  7. If you can’t go, then consider donating to keep the organization going. If you want to find free yoga in your area, go to Yoga For Vets. Carl

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San Francisco: Free Yoga Teacher Training to Work With Veterans

Connected Warriors and Yoga Tree SF will present a free yoga teacher training in San Francisco, led by Connected Warriors Director Judy Weaver. The training is for certified yoga teachers who want to work with veterans and their families to bring a sense of wellness and peace as they transition from battlefield to home.

Tuesday March 14 2013  12:00 – 4:00  Rsvp to the address below.

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Breathing Promotes Awareness –Awareness Heals Warriors

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US Army Veteran Gerald Vest, accepting the Social Worker of the Year Award, 2012. Photo: Maria Bagwell

By Gerald Vest, US Army Veteran and retired Social Worker, Ft. Bliss Restoration & Resilience Center

Breathing may be one of our most important guides readily accessible and available to us every moment of our life. Tarthang Tulku Rimpoche, author, teacher and Founder of the Nyingma Institute, describes breathing as our most effective means for healing, interacting and supporting our whole being.

“Once we know how to contact the energy of breath, breathing becomes an infinite source of vitalizing energies.” Furthermore, he states: “…breathing charts the life rhythms, the way we breathe signals the disposition of our energies.”

It is for these reasons and because meditation has been a daily part of my life experience that I encourage all of our warriors and families to learn about their breathing patterns. I love to sit or work with Qigong/Kath State Exercises and observe my breathing while enjoying Nature’s relationship with us.

For example, every evening the Doves and other birds come for their early evening feeding, bath and strut around our back yard. They are very brave as are our four dogs who love to chase them from their territory. Cody, for example, our Shepherd, will take them out of the picture when their instincts are not focused. I realize that animals and Nature are not in competition, but rather possess an instinctual form of behavior that we all possess.

Wouldn’t it be great if our World Leaders would sit and observe their breathing prior to or during diplomacy and peace meetings? Opening our mind with our Breath offers us a real opportunity to engage and interact with others in order to find peaceful solutions to every problem as well as to discover the peaceful alternatives to war and conflict.

It is often hard to accept that All is Known; however, as we enter our mind with questions, challenges and concerns, our Mind discloses Truth and responds accordingly. An example of this knowing can be understood as we agree or disagree during our teaching-learning processes and experiences. As described in The Tarot, the Book of Life Experience, our knowledge, wisdom, love and truth are an unfolding process of ego and spiritual development of our whole being. The Minor cards show our ego development while the Major Arcana introduces us to our spiritual or essential qualities of maturation.

It is for these reasons and for our understanding that it is important to maintain a “continuum of awareness” of our senses, breath, pain, blocking, and flow of energies so that we can experience the Gestalt or Holistic presentation of life, Nature and our relationships.

We know that Nature or Mind has no judgment, as in the beliefs and rules established by our family and our society. Nature operates in a lawful and absolute Way—No Contradictions, only “collisions of energy” as described in particle science—All is in Total Interaction whether we are aware or not. It is only our Egos who are in conflict with Nature—the Self Preservation; Relations, and Adaptation Instincts respond to any dangers or insecurities as protective and supportive mechanisms. I suspect the greater the number of beliefs we hold, take us further away from the opportunity to be united with our True Nature and respond effectively or skillfully to symptoms of stress, anxiety and depression.

Therefore, observing our breathing and becoming aware and mindful allows us to restore our health and wellbeing and become closer to who we are while offering us Hope and an opportunity to fulfill our aspirations and destiny to be complete loving, responsible, compassionate and respectful Human Beings.

Note:

I dedicate this log to SSG Woody who served as our NCOIC in the Ft. Bliss Restoration & Resilience Center, leader of the Wolf Pack and retired a year ago from military following 20+ years of successful leadership and following several tours of duty in Iraq. Woody reportedly took his life on May 3, 2011. God Bless you Woody, my dear friend and comrade. I hold our politicians responsible for these deaths as they had other alternatives and chose not to follow their instincts and past experiences of Wars.

Please join our SNM Alliance and serve as a volunteer, advocate, sponsor or friend of our injured warriors and their families.

Author’s Bio: 

As a former social worker for the premier US Army Warrior Restoration & Resilience Center (R & R Center), Ft. Bliss, TX, my responsibilities included meeting with soldiers and their families diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress (PTSd). I met with Warriors individually, in couples and in groups. Additionally, I served as the Coordinator of Health Education administering weekly programs, offered a daily meditation/relaxation program, and facilitated our weekly, water polo activity. Our experimental and experiential holistic approach for PTS recovery, incorporates integrative and medical practices–Medical Massage, Yoga, Reiki, Acupuncture, Tai Chi, Qigong, Braintrain & other neurological programs, and other therapies, such as, Expressive Arts, and Therapeutic Field Trips. (2008-2010)

In addition to my practice with soldiers, I created and often teach “Social Work Practice with Elders”), NMSU School of Social Work, founder and team leader of the international community of certified partners of the 15-Minute StressOut Program; Team Leader, Las Cruces, Health Promotion Team with Elders; and, Stress Management/Health Promotion Instructor, 3 hr. classes US Army Community Services, & Wm Beaumont Army Medical Center, Social Work Services, Ft. Bliss, TX (1981-2008).

Currently serve as TRICARE Provider, UNM Hospitals; an Integrative/Holistic Health Practitioner & Social Worker; Consultant-Trainier & Teacher; National & International Presenter; and, Co-Team Leader, SNM Integrative Health Services Alliance with Vets, Injured Warriors & Families, Las Cruces, NM 88005 (575)524.2379

 Reprinted with permission from SelfGrowth.Com